¿What are you and i?

We live in a hyperconnected world, but paradoxically more disconnected than

ever from the emotional. Social networks, dating apps and the culture of

immediacy have changed the way we relate to each other. Today, forming bonds

is easy; the difficult thing is to sustain them. And the most complex of all: to

make sense of them. In the midst of this modern reality, many people are faced

with the same question that comes up again and again, sometimes silently,

sometimes out loud, and almost always with fear: What are you and I?

This question contains much more than a need for definition. It is an emotional

manifestation that arises when what we live has no name, when the bond feels

real but is not validated, when we give without knowing if we are reciprocated,

and when we want something more, but we do not know if we can ask for it. It

is, in the end, an attempt to protect ourselves from the affective void and

ambiguity.

In recent years, new relational models have emerged: open relationships, fluid

bonds, "almost something", undefined situations. They are not bad in

themselves, but they often hide a lack of commitment disguised as freedom.

Confusion becomes commonplace. And you, like so many others, may have

found yourself wondering: Am I in a relationship or is it just my imagination?

Can I ask for something more or would it be too much? Does he love me, does

he need me, or does he just use me to fill temporary voids?

This e-book was born from the need to talk about what many feel, but few dare

to express. It is written for those who have been in the middle of an aimless

relationship, where illusion and anxiety coexist. For those who have felt that

they gave too much without receiving clarity. For those who love, but do not

know if they are loved equally. For those who are waiting for a message, a sign,

an answer that may never come.